We never really ‘get’ the true impact of people pleasing. But I’m ever eager to ruin your life with thought experiments.
I think I’ve been there, not that long ago. Certainly, I’ve had the divorce that comes from embracing authenticity at long last, realizing that oops! No, that wasn’t what I was about! Why did I ever betray myself?
Fast forward to today and I realize I never knew happiness, or peace, quite like I do now. And the rebirth into authenticity, how it aligned in timing with diagnosing my ADHD formally and medicating it (alongside my already well-managed bipolar), would focus each movement I’d made until that point in life as essential to my new essence.
For you see, it wasn’t new at all. It was like finally coming home.
I get to celebrate that FACT be with the real love of my life now, and see that this is what I’d been running from. This!? Yes, that is who really loses out, I realize, when you kill your own self for the self you guess others want you to be. My partner would never have found nor tolerated the ‘me’ that wasn’t true. She is so concerned with truth, that her podcast and Substack is called “Tierah Ruins Things With Science”! 🧬 (and she sure does.)
But when she finds out something is true, she doesn’t let go, and that’s how I know she’ll never let go of me.
Look. Out there in the big wide world, somewhere — to those that are struggling to find themselves, to find someone to be with —there is totally someone like that out there waiting for you. And they are waiting for you to hurry the fuck up and be yourself so they can fall in love with you. They won’t accept anyone else.
So remember, you’re not just doing it for yourself, ya dummy! Your future you is actually calling your name to guide you to that peace. Calling so loud that you feel it your whole life. It’s destiny. Time to listen and come on home.
We never really ‘get’ the true impact of people pleasing. But I’m ever eager to ruin your life with thought experiments.
I think I’ve been there, not that long ago. Certainly, I’ve had the divorce that comes from embracing authenticity at long last, realizing that oops! No, that wasn’t what I was about! Why did I ever betray myself?
Fast forward to today and I realize I never knew happiness, or peace, quite like I do now. And the rebirth into authenticity, how it aligned in timing with diagnosing my ADHD formally and medicating it (alongside my already well-managed bipolar), would focus each movement I’d made until that point in life as essential to my new essence.
For you see, it wasn’t new at all. It was like finally coming home.
I get to celebrate that FACT be with the real love of my life now, and see that this is what I’d been running from. This!? Yes, that is who really loses out, I realize, when you kill your own self for the self you guess others want you to be. My partner would never have found nor tolerated the ‘me’ that wasn’t true. She is so concerned with truth, that her podcast and Substack is called “Tierah Ruins Things With Science”! 🧬 (and she sure does.)
But when she finds out something is true, she doesn’t let go, and that’s how I know she’ll never let go of me.
Look. Out there in the big wide world, somewhere — to those that are struggling to find themselves, to find someone to be with —there is totally someone like that out there waiting for you. And they are waiting for you to hurry the fuck up and be yourself so they can fall in love with you. They won’t accept anyone else.
So remember, you’re not just doing it for yourself, ya dummy! Your future you is actually calling your name to guide you to that peace. Calling so loud that you feel it your whole life. It’s destiny. Time to listen and come on home.